I know that you talk about in-field action and motivation a lot, so I want you to know that I’m not trying to avoid being in field.
Still, I work odd hours and the nights that most people are out, I’m working security. I want to learn how to get women interested in me online, but I’m having no luck.
What can I do to pick up girls online effectively?
I’m an evangelist for guys taking effective action in field.
Reason being is that there are an alarming number of “gurus” on the internet who spend all day writing marketing sales letters and blog posts, but never go into field and therefore have no actual idea what they’re talking about.
There’s “book knowing” and then there is “whole-being knowing”. To get a sense of the difference, who would you rather learn driving from: A guy who’s memorized a bunch of books about driving or a Formula 1 race car driver?
But I digress. When you get down to it, game with women comes down to two simple things: your balls and your strategy.
Different situations call for more of one or the other, but every situation with women calls for some amount of balls and some amount of strategy combined.
I mention this because a lot of guys want to choose online game because despite the lies they want to tell themselves, they are unwilling to take action unless they feel they have the perfect plan and have game all figured out. It’s an impossible condition, and a lot of men suffer from the illusion that the problem is not having enough information or knowledge.
In terms of meeting women online, I want you to approach this in a way that is most effective and not in a way to avoid things you’re unwilling to do. Make sure you are in touch with the part of yourself that is willing to experiment, willing to do “risky” things that could possibly have you rejected and willing to still bring your balls to the table.
With all that said, online game is heavily weighted toward having a great strategy.
So step one is: Start keeping great, organized notes about what you’re currently doing as your strategy.
Record things like:
- How many e-mails you sent that day
- The subject-lines you are choosing to use
- Actions you are taking (e.g. 1) Look at profile for “keywords”, 2) Send her a message with a unique headline, 3) Using her words in the body of the message
- What seems to be working?
- What does not seem to be working?
- Based on your current observations, the courses of action you will take to get more of what works and stop doing what doesn’t.
If you do not have an effective strategy to observe and report, then there is no way in HELL that you will be good at strategy.
On the other hand if you make the decision to take 2 minutes a day to record and strategize, you will start getting results very quickly.
Men are amazingly good at getting results when they are focused on getting a result and take an organized, systematic approach. Get focused, get organized.
Bonus tip: It also helps to have some examples to work from. Win-With-Women.com has some great online dating profile examples. Check them out for great inspiration.
Step two is: Collect as much feedback as you can about your profile.
After several years of coaching, I’ve probably done this several hundred times at this point: Have someone who’s GOOD at online dating evaluate your profile.
In addition, make sure you are putting your absolute best foot forward with your pictures. Take out pictures that don’t serve you. Get your best pictures rated for free on websites like FaceTheJury.com and HotorNot.com.
You’re either throwing shit against the wall or you’re being strategic. Collecting GOOD, RELIABLE feedback in every way you can is essential to quickly developing a winning strategy.
Step three is: Get good information and USE IT.
Reinventing the wheel is a retarded idea.
Yes, there is a ton of information out there. But guess what? Just because there’s lots of information out there, it doesn’t mean that it’s USEFUL information or GOOD information. Even with all the stuff that’s out there, you still need to know how to sift through it and separate out all the crap.
Your best bet is to find someone who’s style you agree with and then learn from them versus trying to create a Frankenstein-method, sticking good advice together with shitty advice and expecting the system to work.
Like everything else we produce, it has to work. The reason it has to work is we are real-time coaches in the real world. We have to be able to demonstrate results in real-time in the real world, always, or we fail as coaches.
Anyone can rewrite stuff they’ve heard or read into an eBook, then ship it off to poor, hapless customers who don’t know any better. We have never taken that approach – we coach first, get our clients ridiculous results and then (if we have the time), write it all down!
Check out Meet Girls Online, it’s good stuff.
Hope it helps,
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